of the Week
H.U.G. (Help Uplift Goodness)
Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.… It is the Lord Christ you are serving.—Colossians 3:23–24
The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”
Commit your works to the LORD and your plans will be established.
Joshua 1:9, NIV
16 Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. 17 For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. 18 So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.
2 Corinthians 4:16-18, NIV
This week's HUG challenge is going to help you take an active role in being a part of the change you want to see in your life.
What you will need to do for this HUG Challenge:
1. Get a journal or note book and a pen.
2. Write down a list of things you would like changed in your life as it pertains to your family, yourself, your job or career and anything else.
3. Create two spaces between each item on the list. For each one add a sentence for how you can change, if the situation won't. Here are some examples:
I don't want to curse anymore.
I will take an active roll in finding other words to say and stop making excuses or finding reasons to curse.
I don't want to get emotional when my family begins asking me questions or talking about my life like I am not there.
I will excuse myself from the conversation or I will tell them that they are making me uncomfortable and to please find someone or something else to talk about but I will not get angry, upset, cry or get defensive.
I will not avoid uncomfortable conversations.
I will state my concerns and opinions and not run away.
It seems like people get so comfortable in their mess, they don't ever want to change, even if it is for their own good. We, loved ones, naturally want to change the situation but feel powerless when that doesn't happen. Figure out why you need this change so much and get determined and intentional about being instrumental in making sure that happens. The key to your success is your willingness to change or approach the situation differently. The old saying is that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. Here are a few things to commit to yourself, to make sure change happens:
Lead by example. You cannot ask others to do what you are not willing to do yourself. So, if you want peace, you have to be a peacemaker. If you don't like drama, don't feed into it by arguing or using body language that shows you are clearly upset. Keep conversations on light topics. Try not to be critical. Try not to be offended or cause offence. Learn how to say I am sorry and admit mistakes. The saying holds true that you have to be the change that you want to see.
Be the bigger person. Always being the adult in the situation can feel like a burden sometimes but it is not in vein. People notice maturity and lack there of. You do not have to respond to everything and you have to stoop to a low level to prove anything. Don't let pride prevent you from stepping on the sword to stop a war. Everyone is thankful for your strength, whether they admit it or not.
Avoid conflict or hostile situations. People may just be waiting for you to enter the rink. Just like you notice your enemies (even within family), they notice you, too! Be smart and stay out of trouble and risky situations. Switch conversations, seats or anything to steer clear of drama. Also, play close attention to what you see. Trouble knows how to find some, just don't be available when it comes knocking.
IMPORTANT TO NOTE:
Change is a necessary part of growth! It makes everyone uncomfortable. Jesus didn't come here for you to be comfortable. He came here to change us so we could be fit for the Kingdom. Now, we have to be about Kingdom Building. We have to begin eliminating things from our lives that interfere with us being our best. So, distractions are no good if they hinder us from taking care of our Father's business. Keep striving to be better. Strive to be an awesome example for the ministry. If you fall, don't be afraid to get back up because Christ is with you! Your actions or how you handle situations can bring an atheist to salvation.
Click the button below to let Life Chat's know what you did for your HUG Challenge. Send a note telling me about how you plan on be a better you in 2020.
HUG WORD CHALLENGE: Cash gave me the word: Theophany (pronouced: the a faney), which means a visible manifestation to humankind of God or a god. Listen in to the HUG Challenge in our latest show What To Do When They Won't Change and let me know if you think I nailed it.
God is love. Get to know Him because He loves you, too, no matter what!